0:00I remember the hypnotherapy session where I really like cleared a lot and made a big breakthrough. And0:06like if people are listening to this, and I'm like, What is hypnotherapy? It's like a guided meditation. And it gets you just0:12to like a relaxed state where the guards that are standing at the door of your subconscious, they go on break, and you're0:18able to, like actually get in there and work on stuff that you're subconsciously doing, right? Because if you're0:23conscious of it, like Yeah, like it's sort of easy to tackle, but stuff that's happening subconsciously, it's hard to0:29like stop those behaviors because it's just like running on its own. So hypnotherapy allows you to like put you in a0:34relaxed theta brain state enough so that like you can go in there and work on your subconscious stuff.0:39Welcome back to Since3000. I'm Danielle Leslie. And we are here today with one of my best friends in the whole wide world.0:47Tara Reed. And I cannot wait for you to dial into our0:52conversation. We have conversations all the time that go deep and far and wide. And you're gonna see a glimpse into0:59how incredible this woman is. She has built an amazing company apps without code that has educated 10s of 1000s of people,1:08helping them own the fact that they can build an app that they can take an idea and turn it into something that can help so1:17many people. She's also a trailblazer, she was one of the first people to make art collecting accessible to the1:24masses. When I see her I truly see a magician, a maverick all1:29the ends. And because of that, you know what, you know what I also love, what I also love about Tara, so you said this,1:37you are the vibrational average of the five people closest to you. And what you're going to get to see in today's episode is1:44what that truly means. When you're in proximity with someone who's vibrating high. What that brings out of you and calls1:50forward in you. So I am so excited for you to get to know tea even more deeply, you're gonna see this transformation1:59that she's going through our obsession with identity, and all the things so tea. Welcome to the show.2:10I'm so excited to bring you today's episode. But before we do, I need to make sure you've heard about member up. So2:17community driven products are the future. But Facebook groups are a thing of the past. And after 10 plus years in the2:23online education space. I've taken all my learnings and I've built this incredible platform member up. It's a customizable2:31easy to use all in one platform where you can build a premium course community or membership site without the tech headache.2:39Gone are the days of having to duct tape together, your content, your community, your payments, all on different2:46platforms. I want you to do me a favor, do yourself a favor and head over right now to member up.com Ford slash Danielle and2:54you can get started for free today. I promise you, I can't wait for you to see this platform. It's beautiful. Okay,3:00the design is amazing. Your community is going to feel at home here and you are going to take pride in your online3:06business. It is the place to start head over to member of.com Ford slash Danielle. Now let's get into the episode. I'm really3:14excited for people to just listen in on a regular ass conversation that we have, which is always super deep conversations3:20can get a little wild. So very wild. I realized we could take one word and go for like three hours. Yeah, just go deep. Yes.3:27Which is what I so appreciate about you. I would say like one of my biggest lessons has been self awareness and telling the3:35truth in real time. I love how you created these archetypes for our friend group. Yeah. You were like What is vine?3:44I have no idea. I have no idea. The authenticator, the authenticator. Yeah, yeah. To3:51me, what that means is, when you think about the authenticator app, you log in. And you got to put in a code to say that you4:00are granted access to your account, because you've put in the proper code, and you are telling the truth. That's what4:06you do to people when you are talking to them. You're like, oh, no, no, no, no, you haven't shared the real truth. Let me4:12ask you another question to get the actual code to access what's really there. Interesting. So you say I'm nosy.4:23So I think one thing we share in common is like a fascination around identity. And I know you're in the middle of this4:29amazing project. Where so first I want to ask you about the4:35identity you're embodying today. And then I would love to hear about what you're doing right now with identity.4:40Okay, great. Yeah. Good question. I'm working through4:46just identifying the different parts of myself. And where this came from. It came from me like experimenting with dating. And4:55realizing that I have been doing this thing where I'm like minimizing my I fell over simplifying myself for like5:02basic guys consumption. Wow. So I was like, Oh, stop doing that.5:07And it came from having like a couple conversations with people who had a lot of space for all of me. And the contrast of that,5:14I was like, oh, like, I need to step more into that. So I started sort of like journaling a little bit about, like,5:20different sides of me. And the different components of myself5:26and they sort of started forming into characters, like alter egos. And so there's like, thus far, so we're, he's going to be5:33an evolving project, right? But there's three goddesses, a superhero and an inner child.5:38Oh, okay, we need to meet these people telling us Okay, so I'm focused now because we there's a lot so focus on5:45like, the three goddesses. And I think like what I mean by that are just sort of like the Regal myths that I have inside of me.5:52And I thought that there's one there's actually multiple. I, the one I'm probably most embodying today, and they5:59sometimes it's like a mix, but I have like a, like a Earth warrior queen. And usually I use her because sometimes you have6:08to put them on or in the morning, I like Who do I need today. In the morning, if I have like a bunch of meetings, I've6:17gotta like, get through a thing. That's usually the character that I turn on. I have I started making playlists for each of the6:23characters to Oh, so like, on that particular playlist,6:29there's some like, Beyonce homecoming. Yes, there's a song6:35by Nicki Minaj. It's like old one. It sort of she has these6:40like different characters to I don't know if you've heard this where she's like, I'm Nicki Minaj. Nicki the Ninja, Nicki6:45the hair. Boss. She's got like all these. She's the epitome of that. She's got like, Oh, yes. And one song6:52she brings. I'll have that. Like, we're not one dimensional. So I have my6:57like, Earth warrior. I have like a call like a water siren. This7:03is one I've been playing with more. And I read that book pissy7:08by Regina. Mama Gina. I can't remember her whole name. But Mama.7:14Yes. And she had this activity like this challenge to like, because what I noticed myself doing is like, when men would7:21look at me, I would immediately divert my eyes. Oh, wow, for habit. And so the activity was to like, just flirt back and be7:28attracted to just like, when you're at the coffee shop to like him, like embody and be comfortable with your own7:34sexiness. So like when I'm sort of doing that I have this sort of like water siren kind of thing happening. And then7:42there's another one which is like my high priestess abundance queen. It's where like, I feel like I've got like, all the7:49resources, I'm not feeling in scarcity, I get to share with my friends I get to I'm usually like very aligned and7:54spiritually connected. So like, those are my three. And they come and play at different times. So that's what I've been7:59sort of playing around with and working on. I love that. Oh my gosh. So I love how you started the thread.8:06And you said what inspired you was when you were in dating? How you had certain people who could embody all the different8:13dimensions of you. Yeah, and I related to that, cuz I remember writing my journal. How I was looking for a man who could8:22embody all that I am. And I said it takes a whole lot of man to hold all that I am yeah. And it had me think about the Way of8:30the Superior Man and the masculine energy and the feminine energy. And I was thinking that me when I'm in my8:38essence in my being I am well becoming a new person from moment to moment. expressing myself didn't really from moment8:44to moment. And the I Am is truly I am period. So there is no I am8:50this I Am that I Am that because even that is limiting, but it's I am. So I'm like, yo, there gonna be somebody who needs a8:57hold all of this in the evolution. And that is what I'm hearing with you.9:02Yeah, I think so. I'm working on it. I'm playing with it. For me, like the first step of playing around with it. I'm doing like a9:09photo shoot to each of my personas, just to sort of like stepping into it more it almost like occurs to me is like9:14performance art in a way of my of myself. Right. So that's, I'm9:20excited about that. Yeah, this is huge. Because so when we met when you9:26said abundance queen, there's no space for scarcity. Yeah. And I9:31remember to ground it in even your business because people are meeting you for the first time. Like, I want y'all to know this9:39woman is a badass. Talk about like the most amazing, brilliant9:44mind where you can traverse a math equation to building an app, like looking at code, figuring that out, teaching9:53herself all kinds of things. And when we I remember like conversations in our early days So when I first met TI, she was10:03presenting on stage at the Lean Startup conference. And was the only black woman on stage. Did a TED Talk like situation? And I10:15was just like, oh my gosh, who is this woman? And then I remember, you were. So just like, expansive. And when you10:26said abundance goddess, yes, it like transported me back to one of our earlier conversations, because I want to like ground10:33this, I want them to understand the journey, because I've known you for when we meet in 20. Let me think10:40it had to be teens. I was gonna say 15, it was 2015. And so in these years, I have seen you evolve.10:52So I'm guarantee you really are shape shift a transformer. So I10:59want you to share where because we talked about abundance? Yeah, where previously did scarcity show up for you?11:06Ooh. Okay, so scarcity definitely showed up a lot in my11:12business. And particularly when I was starting, I felt that the most when I was starting my second business, when I started11:19out to that code, and I would do this thing where I would have noxious ly, like, refreshed my sales dashboard. I was11:26obnoxiously checking things. Because I was like, the feeling was, like, I'm doing okay, but I might mess it up. So like, let11:35me see if I messed it up yet. Let me see if I messed it up yet. That was sort of where a lot of the scarcity was coming11:41from. And I think it impacted me because there are a lot of decisions that I was making. Were like, I wasn't investing in11:47myself, I wasn't investing in my business. Like I was really like, Let me hold on to what I have. And I got a counter11:54example. And you and I had to do a lot of work. And this because you seemingly right? And it's always like not that way,12:03inside, but from outside. And as your friend like you are really expanding your grow your investing in yourself was the12:08main thing. So like, I remember the time you were going you're working with a lot of different coaches and learning from them12:14and doing all of that and I was like, That cost so much money. I'm not doing that. Oh, no way. And I got to watch you like12:26growing and blossoming in this and myself not. And at first it showed up as some like jealousy. It showed up as like, oh Daniels12:36doing that, that like it showed up in like a shadow way, like a nasty kind of way for me. And I had to get real with myself that12:44like, I'm not mad at Danielle. She's not doing anything wrong. I'm mad at myself, for not doing those things. Like you gave me a12:49mirror of my own scarcity issues. And I remember12:54specifically, there was a week where I have made that was my first time making like $100,000 in a week. And I that week, I13:02was supposed to get my nails done, but I was like, Oh, I can't get my nails done because I want to do a little design on it's gonna be too much money. wasn't gonna be Oh, no, maybe13:10like $40 $50 It didn't make any sense. Dollar week $1,000 week,13:16I can't get my nails done, right. And that's what I was like, Oh, I have a problem. Like there's a thing to work on here13:23in my relationship with money, my relationship with success, my relationship with abundance. That was when I got really13:29clear, but it was all happening like around that time. And I had found a I get referred to a hypnotherapist to work with. I13:38didn't end up working with that hypnotherapist because I thought she cost too much money. I know. And then I happened to meet13:48another woman who happened to be a hypnotherapist, and I was like, here's your window girl, like you're not gonna do it13:53again. Don't do it again. It's a growth opportunity. And so I13:59decided to work with her. We were working with me for some months. I remember the hypnotherapy session where I14:07really like cleared a lot and made a big breakthrough. And like if people are listening to this, and I'm like, What is14:12hypnotherapy? Like? I know, when I think when I used to think about hypnotherapy, I think about like, you know, the first14:18thing was like the cloud, like you're getting sleepy. Yeah, it's not that it's like a guided meditation. And it gets you just14:25to like a relaxed state, where the guards that are standing at the door of your subconscious, they go on break. Oh, yeah. And14:33you're able to, like actually get in there and work on stuff that you're subconsciously doing, right? Because if you if14:39you're conscious of it, like Yeah, like it's sort of easy to tackle, but stuff that's happening subconsciously it's hard to like stop those behaviors because it's just like14:47running on its own. So hypnotherapy allows you to like put you in a relaxed theta brain state enough so that like you14:54can go in there and work on your subconscious stuff. So that's what I was doing. I remember I had a specific session where I15:00The big breakthrough in my relationship with money. And so I was imagining myself because you're just imagining yourself15:05doing stuff. Sometimes I'm imagining myself, I have to go back to like five year old Tara and ask her what she needs from15:12me in order to like, go on, was it called like to retire from15:19this decision, because like a five year old decision is not helpful right here, you grow now. Or sometimes I'm like,15:26imagine something more abstract. So this particular session where I made a big breakthrough with my relationship with money, I15:33was imagining myself in a house. And my hypnotherapist asked me to allow the energy of money to come in. And she's like, what15:40does it look like? And for some reason, in my subconscious brain, the energy of money, it's like a pink Pepto Bismol colored15:48blob. But if you like overthink it, you knock yourself out. So15:53just let it go go with the blocks go the block. So okay, so since she's like, okay, expand it, like make it a bit bigger,16:01because it was sort of like, this big, it wasn't super huge. And we expanded it, and I kind of was like, in the corner,16:09getting kind of squished and feeling uncomfortable. And I16:15realized that I could like lean on it a little bit. And it was like squishy was bouncy. In fact, like, I could like play16:21with it, like bounce on it, actually. And so like jumping like bouncy house jumping on it. And like, oh, like it's not like16:27it's like can be playful. It's it's light, it's playful, I can manipulate it, I can move around with it like, it's fine. So I'm16:34getting comfortable, like jumping on this pink blob, it's filling up my living room in the house. And she asked me to16:41expand it some more. So now my only option is to expand the16:47whole house. The house has to move. So I imagined myself expanding the house. And we do that a couple of times. And I'm16:55kind of like my subconscious was getting I don't know, for some reason why that worked. But my subconscious got there. Like it17:00can be fun. It can be playful, you can just expand it if you need more room. It's not a big deal. And that really like17:07helped click something for me. But it's been a journey for me obsessively checking everything and worrying about everything,17:14too. Sometimes I still catch myself do that. And I just have I can like let it pass now like, oh, bird looks great. I don't17:21have as much attachment to it. But it's been it's been work. Oh my gosh, that was amazing. Wow, that you17:29helped me. You helped me that you gave me like an alternative to like what it could look like? Do you ever feel like scarcity17:40like that? I feel like we all have things that were like, our strengths or weaknesses that occurs to me is one of your17:46strengths. If you're like I'm comfortable, I'm held. Does it feel that way? You know,17:52hmm, that's so interesting. How do I experience scarcity? So18:00Wow. I think how it occurs to me is, I've been bumping up against18:08this a lot lately. So when I think about the book, The Big Leap, I think hitting the upper limit. I think that helps me18:16articulate how I experience it. So you're right, I'll be the first one to drop money on a mastermind, like tempt me with a18:24sale, I will give you the money. And I may or may not go on the trip that comes with the money, but I'm gonna give you the money. So in those situations, it's a yes. I would say I guess18:35where I experience the scarcity is an I guess what I see as possible for me. So when I think about everyday waking up, and18:47knowing I really can dream, the bigger big be the bigger me do18:53anything. Even like moving into a new industry. I guess that's18:59when I experience it. Yeah, it gets scary. When I know it's19:06almost like it's one of those shows. It's like the should conversation. I'm like, I should be able to see myself as this19:13person who can dream, the bigger dream. Yeah, and know that I can19:19do anything. And when I'm not, I shamed myself for it. And I'm like, why aren't we like, what are we hitting up against? I've19:27been referencing like, JLo a lot. It's like JLo to me is the embodiment of being the cause and the effect I think Dr. Joe19:36talks about when you are we a lot of times as humans think about If This Then That. Yeah. And I think he talks about you19:44seeing yourself as the cause. So I think what that means to me is19:53she walks in in her Versace dress, and she's like, this is19:59what we're doing. And then Google needs to invent Google Images, because so many people are trying to search for this20:06dress. Yes, the embodiment of being the cause the effect. And when I think about her, I'm like, there. I mean, obviously,20:13I don't know her. But it's like, when I think about that, I'm like, Okay, how can I get into the Versace dress? And just walk20:20into whatever room and say, This is it? We're here? This is what20:25we're doing. Instead of being like, should I wear that? I don't know. I don't know if that's Yeah, I haven't done this20:32yet. Am I doing too much? What are people gonna think? Yeah, that's my favorite one. Like I'm doing I think I'm doing too much.20:40Yeah, that's real. And I guess for me, it's, I'm not doing enough. And I don't know why I can't. It's I'm not doing enough.20:49It's interesting how, like, we can all have a story and narrative, right? I'm not doing too much doing enough. And it20:55sort of equally gets in the way. And it's just sort of this like, voice in the back of your head. And we're all just trying to21:03develop this muscle of like, looking at the voice be like, Thank you for your opinion. But that voice is not you, right?21:09It's just like, it's, it's the insecurity. It's a doubt. But like, it doesn't have to be you. I love that you're working21:16through that. Yes. Oh, my gosh, I think I loved when you shared the story,21:21speaking about the different voices and versions of ourselves. When you shared the story of how you visited, I21:29think it was your eight year old self. Yeah. And you had a conversation with her. And I remember, at first I would love21:36for you to like, share that. Because it was a couple of weeks after that, that I was able to visit with sixth grade Danny, in21:45a hot yoga session. And I was in a meditative state, the music was playing and I was laying flat and all of a sudden I was21:51there and it was real. And that lent to like sixth grade Danny21:57is living 60 year old Danny is living. They're all living in different dimensions. We're in the eternal present, I can visit22:03them at any time. I can have conversations with them at any time. And that was my first moment visiting with her. And I22:09went right into my bedroom. And she was working on the science project and protozoa. And she was in the gifted class Dr.22:16Burch and she felt the weight of the world like it was Do or die22:21with this project. It was a three panel cardboard thing. And she waited to the last minute she was shaming herself. She was22:27feeling bad. And it was that stress and weight of the world that I saw shows up and drives the bus. Yeah, as the grown ass22:35Danny, and feels the way to the world in the stress and anxiety. But it was because of the story you shared of you visiting and22:42having a conversation with your all about Tara. Thank you for reminding me. Yes.22:50And I was able to hear something in that moment. And now when I'm feeling it, I'm like, Oh, God, it's it. Great. Danny says22:56great. And he's comments. You trying to drive the bus? And let her know. We're good. Because in that moment, I told her like,23:03You're so good. Yes, so good. Like you are so good. Like, you're good.23:11That's beautiful. This conversation to reminds me how important it is to like vulnerably share what you're23:18going through with your friends, because you don't know what's going to inspire them to go like do their version of whatever23:25that looks like for them like their work. And if you're not sharing vulnerably with your friends, you almost are like23:30robbing them from a learning or experience or a thing for them to get because like I didn't know that impact you like, I'm23:37glad I shared it now. So I think what you're talking about is an23:43I did we both did the landmark forum. Yeah. Which is like a23:49life coaching program. And so in that program that was really like my catalyst for doing a lot of personal work. In that23:56program, you sort of identify a moment in your life where you24:02made a decision about yourself. And usually there's one like very young mine was like pre kindergarten was the first one I24:09can remember. There's one another one I think they say like for women, it's usually like middle school ish. And for24:18guys often like early high school, where you make a decision about yourself and then one like an early adulthood. And24:25I'm not really sure my early adulthood one but I know my first two and the second one is where I had to go do some work24:32that you're referring to. The first one was I was in pre kindergarten I had this friend named Erica, who had she just24:39like learned some like racist stuff from her grandmother, who was raising her and so we're playing and like we're24:45pretending to be the princess and she told me that I couldn't be the princess because I was black. And I'm a tattletale, so24:50I cried with the teacher. The teacher handled it really well. She was like no tearing up the princess. She's like she's all24:57the colors of the rainbow put together. She's a different kind of Prince. This and my like, how will the pre kindergarten I want25:04my four year old brain was like, Oh great, my values being a different kind of Princess. That was what I got from that. Right?25:12And so it's good and it's bad. The good part is that like, I've25:18essentially got to do something a different way. I've got to build a company called apps without code, I've got to like,25:23do the contrarian thing, right. And it works for me in a lot of ways. And also, sometimes there's a way that stuff like it25:30works that way, right? Like, there's a way that works well. And you can just do that. You got to make a trade on25:37everything, on everything. So like, it's a strength, and it becomes a weakness, but it's a thing that sort of running. And25:44then the other one was in middle school, I had this scenario where like, there was a guy that I was taking to really small25:51schools, there's a guy I was dating, like, middle school dating, so it's like, yeah, I was dating. And then he was25:59dating my friend. And he had tried to, like, you know, kiss me or something when they were dating. And I told her, and she26:05blamed me and had all the girls in the class, stop speaking to me for the rest of the year. And I decided that I was going to26:12like, well, like, there's no one talking to me. So like, let me go to like, study hall, and like, I'm gonna work really hard26:17to get into this competitive High School. And I decided in that moment that like, I don't need friends, hard work can be26:23my friend, subconsciously, it wasn't like consciously deciding these things. So the instance that you're talking about, I26:29went, I essentially was doing it through a meditation, but I went to my eighth grade classroom, and sort of stood in the back of26:38the room. This was my, one of my first experiences was really about time traveling and meditation to going back in26:45time. And so I remember in the meditation, I'm sitting in a chair, and I go backwards in time to this moment, and I'm in26:53the back of the classroom. And I didn't want to, like get too close to myself, so I knew I was gonna freak myself out. Right?27:00So I just sort of set the energy of like, you're okay. It's gonna be alright, you got this, you got it, and sort of sent that27:09reassuring energy to myself, but like, that was for sure. I think the instance that I told you about, and I was like, Danny, I27:15did try time travel. Tell me. Yeah, that's right. And that was27:21I think, like, I was really just starting to get into Dr. Joe Dispenza. His work instead of his meditation retreats and stuff, and I was having those experiences. It was like27:28mystical experiences in meditation through that. Yeah. Oh, my gosh,27:34that's been huge. What I have seen in myself, is this change27:43in how I define success for myself? And you know, it started27:48with growing up whatever the Northstar was it said you are27:53achieving. It was that thing. So first, it was the 4.0 it was27:58being president of every organization, prom queen, ASB president ICC president, then having a business it was28:06revenue. It's like, Oh, of course. This is the new Northstar, its revenue, how can I make the most money? And it28:12wasn't until I was faced with you know, breaking up out of the28:17seven year relationship and saying, Okay, wait a minute. First, who am I without this person? And then I need space to28:27answer that question, which means I need space for my business. So who am I without this business? Who is Danielle?28:36Without doing unless, of course from scratch? And in that inquiry, my Northstar shifted. And I think first it went from28:44the revenue to then saying, what does it look like to work 10 hours a week? And committing to that, and then three months28:52making that happen? And now which shifted to self expression? How can I be my most fully expressed self from moment29:00to moment, and that is the new barometer for success for me in my life. And what I want to know is and we're gonna get into the29:10the masculine, the feminine, because as a very masculine and feminine shift. But I want to know, like, how has your29:17definition of success because you've achieved so much like it's wild, it is wild. So I want to know, how has your definition29:29what do you deem as success? Where did it go from whereas it shifted to? Yeah, I think I relate to what you're saying about like, where29:38it started, right? Like starting around, like, gotta get this grades gotta get into school, got to like, do the things that29:44you feel you're supposed to do. I know like growing up, my mom gave me like, you know how they have the ranked list of29:51colleges. She gave me that list to put a line underneath where she went. It's like anything above. Wow, anything above my29:59mom. at USC was like, Oh, it was room. So I think like that was30:08sort of what I had gotten. And I think it was all good intent on her behalf. But my mom is definitely thinking about ROI30:16and her investment. Where's my ROI? And I think after you like,30:26check enough boxes like it gets boring, is boring. So I found30:32myself getting bored at a point of the like accolades Oh, like,30:37this sounds very privileged to say, but it's like another article is not going to be that exciting, like another list that30:44I'm on. It's not really that exciting. And it really to me as30:51well is about like self actualization, self expression, becoming the highest version of myself the most authentic30:58version of myself, we're talking about being the authenticate me, you are sort of saying I'm asking other people questions to31:05get them authentic. Like, it really comes from me feeling now. So Miss, I feel misaligned. If I'm not being authentic, and31:13I'm not around people who are also being authentic, so like, I will stay here and work on it until it feels a line because31:19otherwise I'm going to feel like uncomfortable. I feel uncomfortable. And so what I've been doing is sort of just31:26creating these little challenges for myself of getting more self actualized of asking myself like what would future terror like31:35what's something that future Terra is already doing? That current eras like terrified to do, but future to era feels like31:42it's no big deal. In crafting these little challenges and quests for myself to step into those things. Like, I'll give31:50you an example. Last year was the first time we had like a big31:55potential acquisition conversation, a company reached out, we were talking about potentially selling up to that32:00code. And as we were talking, I realized that the way that I32:06feel about myself and my worth, like, I couldn't even imagine what my life would look like, if I had that dollar amount in my32:13bank account. I couldn't really like wrap my head around that. And so I was clear, but like, I can't even confidently have this32:20conversation. until like, I'm that future version of myself, that I'm gonna step into eventually. And so I crafted32:29this little like challenge for myself. So I was like, what would I do I get like really pretty house in LA and I would32:36have like a really nice spacious like dining room where I could like host dinner parties, and where I can like be nosy with32:42all my friends about all their lives. And also invite new people and interesting people and be nosy what she knows, she32:49knows, you know. So um, and and there were other things I would32:56like something that I eventually took off the list. But there I was experimenting, like, I will get my makeup done every day. It turns out that I didn't really like that I like makeup that33:03much. But that was on the list. Yeah. Let's try it out. I had like a list of things that I would do. And then I booked a33:08flight to LA to go do those things. So I like went on Zillow33:14and like reached out to some properties. I totally couldn't afford to go tour and go see them to just like let's make it33:19comfortable and feel normal. I like hired and makeup artists to do my like, look for a little while, like I was doing those33:26things so that they felt like no big deal so that I could easily make it happen. Because when you feel like it's a big deal, like33:33you block it. It feels unreachable. You're blocking it. It feels like nothing. If you've what33:39was the like to tour the homes and were these like $2 million homes, million dollar homes, half million dollar homes. What33:46did that feel like? Okay, well, I went in thinking like, Oh, I'm gonna rent a place and I had a rent budget. And I went to go see the33:54rent budget places. I was like, oh, no, this is not what I was talking about. Like if we're gonna do this and like actually34:00do it. Yeah, it was like, Oh, actually, at this point, it wouldn't even make sense to rent like people at that point. You34:06just buy and if you want to move you sell it and make a little bit money and just buy another one. So I was like, okay, like, let me look at things for sale. And so they were like $5 million34:15$6 million houses. So how did it feel walking through there? Knowing Okay,34:21future Tara's trying this on? Yeah, well, I like nice stuff. So once I got in there I feel34:28comfortable. Yeah, yeah, I actually didn't feel once I got34:35there. I didn't feel super intimidated on the plane on the way that like everything leading up to it felt really intimidating, but once I was in there, I didn't feel super34:43intimidated. And I kind of at that point was like you're in it now. Just fake it till you make it can you can afford this house34:48just you know, go look around see it? Yeah. But I think what it did was it gave me a clear like vision of where we're going34:56what's possible, and there were some things on that list that I took off because like this isn't Even me, I don't even care about this part, take this off. I'm an ultra homebody. So like my home35:06and my space that, you know, some of those things stayed on there. But I think those are some examples of things that I35:12have been working on to just like get to a more limitless35:18version of myself because those things have that's not possible. That was like limitation I added. Alright. And we're35:24talking about self expression, self actualization becoming the highest and best version of yourself. Like those have been35:30some little challenges I've been giving myself also the challenge of the characters and the versions of myself and just35:35expressing that without worrying about am I doing too much, it's, uh, you know, so that those are kind of like examples of things35:42I've been working on to, to really like undoing stuff and doing stuff you've learned. To get to you get to me,35:51it's been proven that procrastination can be one of our biggest enemies to success. Now, contrary to belief,35:57procrastination is not based on a lack of time management or organizational skills. Procrastination is directly36:03linked to to our emotions. Now, the reason I know this is because of Patti Johnston. Patty Johnson is incredible. She's of36:10course from scratch, remember, but even more importantly, she's built multiple multimillion dollar businesses once she36:16learned how to overcome procrastination. 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Um, I want you to paint the picture for the37:24people. What your birthday celebration was like, Okay, great. The challenge for my birthday was to get out of my37:34own way about what other people were gonna think. So even though37:39in reality, like all my friends were happy to just like, do whatever and celebrate my birthday hit me with it, whatever was it37:45what other people were gonna think or you were gonna think? Well, it's really like, what I think that you're gonna think37:51because you probably not even thinking my reality. Right? Right. So it was really like, well, I thought that you were gonna thought we were gonna think it was like a whole way I37:59had created right? And this is quick sidenote, a thing that I'm38:05working through right now. Because I see this in like family members. And like my mother in particular, our see38:10where I got the like, oh, you created a whole nother reality web of something's happening. Something's not but like, that's38:17the thing I'm working through in general. But in this scenario was like, Don't worry about what they think create the experience38:24that you want. And that is an expression of you. And to celebrate your 30th birthday sort of us. So we went to38:31Dominican Republic. I randomly felt called to go there. I do not know why I didn't really second guess it. I was like,38:38Dude, that's the answer. That's what we're gonna do. Not overthinking it. By the way, like I overthought a lot of38:45things, so I'm gonna make it seem like, I'm very grateful that my friends have flexible track ability to travel because38:52I sent that invite out, like real late. And the reason why was because I was like, Oh my gosh, I don't know what they're38:58gonna say. So like, Thank you for coming. Um, and so we went39:06to the ER, we had this really beautiful villa. Yeah. It was just us. There may be seven of us something like that. Seven of39:16us. And okay, we did all kinds of things. We had like a sort of39:22visioning of our next cells ceremony that we did. And we even like each we kind of all were given a card cosmic did39:31this. Someone came in to do this with us. And so we were each39:36given a different expression format, song, dance, or rat39:43Spoken Word and Word. Yeah. And we had to, like create the thing about our future selves.39:50That was so good because it was a mirror. In particular for me, yeah. Because she gave us this and it was so uplifting and it39:58was like great. And then he said, Once we got the assignment I shut down. I remember I met. I was I was like, I already40:08it was little Danny being like, I'm overwhelmed by this challenge. I feel the pressure. It has to be perfect. I don't know what I'm gonna say. I don't know. I'm gonna write I'm gonna40:14nap. I'm gonna go to sleep. Yeah, so it was so amazing. Shawn's gonna come out he's gonna have a full production.40:20full production he did. He did. So good.40:25Yeah, yes. Okay, so like we did that activity. Um, we I think I40:32like created my like high priestess abundance clean persona in that activity, actually. And then we also had,40:42we like, went on this like, plantation, a lot of land was like a cooking class. And we're like learning about their40:48culture. We also what else do we do at a clothing optional pool party. So fun. Was very meat. Yeah, absolutely free.40:58Absolutely. We did lots of sin. notae Oh, we did the dinner and just to notate. And then we did41:03us there. Like, walk down the stairs. And it was like in the middle. Yes. And there was like water at the bottom. We're the41:11only ones in there. And it was like, the the rock was lit up was like a blue light. And we just walked up the stairs as the41:17live music. The live band was playing just for us just for fun. And there was a table and there's like a body of water and41:25surrounded by rock formations. And we're in this in North Bay. And there's a table just press. Yes. And there was dinner. The41:32food was amazing. Well, like we didn't need it. We don't need another level. We want another41:39level. That's quite good. Later, we took it to go. Everything were like they were really worried. Right? They were41:46worried everything was okay. Yes. We were having a good time. It was good. Yeah, it was good. And then we had the dinner where41:53we dressed up as like the celestial versions of ourselves. Yes. Yes. Shawn sent me to plan for the party. He sent me42:03questions will questionnaire and one of the questions was like, how do you want people to feel when they arrive? And how do you42:10want people to feel when they leave. And I really wanted people to feel like they stepped into the next version of42:17themselves. Like I didn't want to just be my birthday. I want it to be like our birthdays. And it was like a portal. That was42:25the intention. And I didn't tell anybody other than Shan Shan knew. But anyway, that was the intention. And afterwards like42:31that's what everybody was saying. Yeah. Yeah.42:36Yeah, I love it. Can you see birthday Abadi? Is that visible? I love that. Like42:43we're talking about your birthday. And that everyday like, you turn that into a birthday for everyone, because42:48everyday truly is our opportunity to be reborn. Rebirth. Like you open that portal and you made it not just42:55on your birthday, but it was a reminder like every day can be that portal to be reborn and rebirth. Yeah, I tried to create like portals for myself often. I43:03travel a lot. I feel like the easiest placement for me of a portal is when I'm leaving a trip. And like our friend group,43:11we like meet up quarterly maybe a little bit more often. We all live in different cities that satellite events, and then we43:17have satellite events. That's right. That's right. I just came back from a satellite event in Aruba. That's right. And even43:25from the satellite event that I just came back from I just flew for a robot like today when I was leaving. I was very pensive43:31because I was like, what did I learn what was there for me to get? For me it was like being with so I got my mom invited me43:38on her girls trip. And I was like, I'm not gonna go on your girls trip. But at the same time is your girl's trip. Where's the43:45girls trip was in Aruba? Oh, God, it was her girlfriends. My mom's girlfriends she invited me but I was like, I don't wanna be43:53on your trip. I'll come same time. I'll be adjacent to your trip. Because they have like a strict agenda. They're like we44:00have lunch it we have to have like facials not facials they44:06have like dress up they will it's nice the White Night and we'll do the photo shoot and then it's a too much but I got44:13in like being with my mom I got a good mirror right of like things that I see in myself both good and things I want to44:20challenge in myself and so I was really pensive about that this morning and that was a portal for me to write it was a44:27reminder to be kind to myself it was a reminder to like not44:33create too much story about what's happening what's not happening. And I got a mirror and I got to like journal about44:41it but that was a portal for me to write I think like life is always during you portals you were seeing Monsters Inc. That44:48movie. We've got the like, don't like it. Like, you know, you go to the cleaners and they've got that like, yeah, dry cleaner is44:56the revolving dry cleaner thing. It's like in monsters and there's a bunch of doors on it. And they're all portals. So it's45:01like a revolving thing of doors. And I think that that's always happening. Like there's always a portal there for you. And like45:07most people just never open any of the doors, they just kind of like sit there and watch, the portals come past. And for me,45:17I've committed to like, let me go through as many as I can, because as soon as you go through one, you're in another45:22space, and there's another conveyor belt of doors like it's never ending. And you get to like, grow because as you go45:29through them, like, you get power ups like a video game, like you get bigger, you get stronger as you go through these45:35challenges in these gross moments. And so for me, I've committed to like let me open up as many doors challenges on my45:41for myself as possible. But the portals are always there. You have to like do a big birthday for the portals like the portals45:49there. I love that. As we were saying that I had a visual and as you're opening, the doors are getting closer and closer to the45:56center. Like the center. What's in here already? Yeah, like46:02getting closer and closer to the center to like the essence the purity the truth? Yeah, have you? Yeah, that's right. That's right. And it46:09requires doing a scary thing, because I think like in it, I'm like on Monsters Inc. Now, there's like a little monsters46:15are at the door, like the scary guys are at the door. So you have to like get past the monster, right? Everyone Target46:23and I talked about this often of like getting past the monster too. But like you get past the monster and you like get points46:30and you get like bigger and stronger, you get like a bad power pack of extra skills that you then get to like go into the46:36next thing when I often talk about the different levels. This is so interesting. And I think about like Mario Brothers and how you would go46:44through the leveling. And you get to the end of the level. And it was linear because it was an old school game and you're46:49linearly going and you reach the end. And there's a boss that you need to defeat at the end of the level. And you defeat the boss46:55because you gained all these points and you got some things and you got you got the mushroom or whatever. And then you defeat47:02the boss. And then you level up and you go to the next level. But guess what? You get to the end of that level. And there's47:07another boss, a bigger boss, they get bigger. You get less scared, maybe to be right.47:15Sometimes you write you feel scared doesn't go away. And there's times when in my life. I thought I defeated the47:21big boss at level four. And then a year later, I'm like, wait a minute, this the same boss, I thought I defeated but we hear47:30we hear again? Yeah. Yeah, yeah, well, like kind of comes up differently.47:35Because I don't know that we ever like when we're doing our personal work we ever, like get rid of a thing fully, we get rid47:42of a scary thing, we get rid of a trauma and who ever get rid of it, you just kind of like, get as much as you can weed it out.47:49And it usually comes back in some capacity. Except the next time you can be like, I know, I know what this is, I seen this47:59weed before I'm a name for the name for it, you have some tools for getting around that you know how it operates a little bit48:05until it shows up differently because it would come back looking different. But you have a little bit more tools. One of48:11the things that I'm still working on is finding this balance of masculine and feminine energy in, in my48:18business and also just my self expression. I think self expression and business are now starting to like merge a little48:23bit more. But that balance has been something I'm working on. And I have on my whiteboard like sticky notes of like quest that48:32I'm on things that I'm working on. And sort of stepping into my feminine is one that I had to be intentional about doing. Because48:42leading up to here in my career, I've relied a lot on my48:47masculine energy to like, get it done. Whereas the spreadsheet where the numbers, I was making decisions, maybe they weren't48:54intuitive base intuition base, can you break down? I think there's a lot of definitions about what is49:00masculine versus feminine, that can sometimes get tied up in gender norms, when really they might be a little bit different.49:06So to break it down in your terms, what is when you talk49:12about masculine, feminine, what does that mean? Okay. I think when I think about feminine this is a good49:18question. Because so many people are like, Oh, pink, right? That's feminine, right? What I think about feminine I think49:25about intuitive, creative, wild in a good way. Like I think we49:31have a negative connotation. I love wild, right? I was about to get a tattoo that says stay wild. Like of course49:37you were you know, I'm saying you didn't get it? No. Was good thing I didn't. I was too while somebody write it and they're49:43writing and get it. It didn't it may or may not be in my life forever, you know, yeah. embodies stay wild, right. That would have49:52been wild. Wild. Um, you know, we can do it another way. Ah,50:01yeah. So like intuitive creative. And by the way, like men have that do we all have masculine and feminine, right.50:09And then when I think about masculine I think about like, like decisive structured, I think about like, organized in a50:17way. And we all have that too, right? We have both. And for me,50:23I think the messages that I heard growing up and in business and in starting my business was like the thing to do to be50:30successful as being your masculine energy. I don't think I like heard that literally. But that was the message coming across. Yes. And I had to make an intentional choice to explore50:41more of my feminine, I think it started off the wording I was using was become more, and I've shifted the word and to explore50:48more, because I felt, here's what the journey was, it was like it was really in my masculine making variable. That50:55was how I was running my business, for sure. And then in experimenting with being more of my feminine, it was more of51:03like, what is my intuition, say, and I would like lean on, for example, like Angela, who runs my marketing and my team, like,51:09I will often say, like, here's what my gut says about what we should do, can you run the numbers to go see, like, if it51:16supports that, but like, my, here's what I'm feeling. Or I've51:23been working on this project to design a new software and we're gonna get together and like a house, and sort of creatively51:29design all of it right? And, and so I'm creating more spaces for myself to be like, creative to be in my intuition. And it51:36doesn't have to be make logical sense. It can make illogical sense, right. I think like a lot of people think like the word51:42illogical is a bad thing. Like sometimes there's no not a whole rhyme or reason, it just feels right. And for me, I hit a point51:51where my business was no longer fun. And the shift of me being51:57more in my feminine, made it more fun. I got back the joy and52:02being more than that. And I was exploring that in like all areas of my life, not just in business, but it kind of important.52:09So I love this framing of how we are taught that masculine energy52:17is something we can harness to achieve success. When I think about reading do less by Kate Northrup, that was like a52:24turning point for me, where she broke it down to where are mostly like, I would say, the Western culture in America,52:31where the work day was actually designed around the man's biology. Yeah, like a 24 hour, kind of Exactly. They have a 2452:38hour cycle. So the cycle we usually talk about is the woman's cycle, which is a 28 day cycle. Well, we don't talk about52:46as men have a cycle to it. It's a 24 hour cycle, right? So we have we both have cycles, but our 28 day cycle, aka our52:56period, we go in there, yeah. Looks like for one week, I may be lethargic, self doubting out of it. Scattered mind, the next53:09week, I'd be super creative and want to do all the things. The next week, I'm super productive high energy bubble by the next53:15two weeks like that, that is a 28 day cycle. And for a man, and53:21that is you know, estrogen lead for an individual who has testosterone, they are in that same cycle, but it's in a 2453:28hour period. So for the first two hours of the day, they're lethargic, they're just waking up. The next eight hours is53:35hyper productive. Go go go with boop, boop, boop. And then at the end of the day, it is maybe a little bit creative. And then we're going to wind down. So it's in a 24 hour period. And53:42guess what, that matches a workday? Yeah. And guess what? That doesn't match a 28 day cycle? Yeah, that over half the53:49population has. And so I found myself plopped into a world that was not created or designed with me in mind or by me. Yep. And53:57we're like, we need to show up every day, and produce on that schedule. By 10am. Pop it out by 6am Be ready to check out maybe54:073pm LOL. And that was such a turning point for me to realize, Oh, my goodness, no wonder I have to like, Will myself and54:15force myself and all the things. And I remember when I was working my full time job, like calling in sick, and it oh my54:24god, this was such a big moment. I was working at a startup and I came back into the office and I had taken off the previous few54:31days. And I remember his name was Kyle and he was so sweet. One of my co workers, and he's like, You were out. And I was54:38like, Yeah, you know, I was sick. And he's like, like, emotionally. And I was like, Yeah, I don't even think I was54:47aware that I was out because I was emotionally sick. That I was depressed was which was probably linked to me feeling shame54:56around the fact that I was feeling tired that I was having crying I'm sorry, I was feeling lethargic. And I had these like55:02scattered thoughts. So in reading that book, I was like, oh my goodness, we have a completely different biology55:09that is not supported by this. All the institutions in this world that we've created, which is one of the beautiful things55:15about running our business. But it was interesting, because when I first started running my own business, I was still subscribing to this world that was not designed for me to55:23thrive. Because how would they know? And so it wasn't until recently, when I realized, Oh, my goodness, like we can55:30actually have a conversation and be open that here's where I'm feeling. Here's where I'm at, let's design my month around.55:38Yeah, what's going on. So years ago, I hired a coach to help me with this name is Shara.55:44And she helped me map my menstrual cycle to my like, work55:51calendar. And so she helped me see that there's like eight different phases that I'm gonna be in throughout a month. And if55:58I can, you know, there's some days where like, there's a thing you have to do. But if I can predict, as a business owner,56:05move my calendar around, there's different phases for different things. So there's a phase usually like, right, as my like,56:17period is like ending, or I'm in like, she gave me like muses for them, right? Like people. So like, it's my Serena Williams,56:25five, like, I'm ready to like, hit any of the balls, like I'm ready to go focused, right? And there's periods where I wouldn't56:33even call it like, I've been challenging myself around calling it lethargic. It's like I'm integrating the information.56:39It's not time to be doing a thing I'm processing I'm channeling. That's the time for that. And there are times where56:48I'm super creative. I'm in my like, JK Rowling. That's her name. Yeah, JK Rowling. So she gave me these like muses for56:55each of them. So I can know who I'm channeling at each of those phases. But that made a really big difference. And I'm actually57:01really glad that you said that, because I almost forgot that. I57:06used to be like, Oh, I gotta do this thing today. I mean, there's something that you have to do today, it happens. But in57:14general, I'm trying to like ride a wave and surf. So they I know57:20that that there's a big project for me to do. There is for example, a proposal after right? The wave is gonna come or I'm57:28super inspired to do it. Yes. And if I try to force it right57:33now, it's gonna take five hours to do. If I do it, when the wave is here, maybe 2030 minutes, boom, boom, boom, I'm in and57:41out, right? It's gonna be like, inspired, it's gonna be easy. And so in general, I tried it that requires you to work in57:47advance, rarely can't wait last minute to do it, because then you're like on a time crunch. But if I can work in advance, I57:54can ride waves better based on where I am and where it's in flow. And that that for sure has helped me a lot. Because I'm not58:04interested in the forcing of it just makes it harder for everybody. Right? Oh, my gosh, I love this. Just the importance of the58:12people closest to you. So Helen is my Chief of Staff. Yeah. And58:18she's my right hand person. And I would say she is one of the first people in my life who has consistently asked, How are you58:26feeling? How does this make you feel? scheduling things like this. I remember last year, we did a photo shoot. And I58:35remember her planning it around my cycle. Like thinking me58:41letting her know. But I think what it also takes us for us to be self aware and to say this is going to impact us, but also to58:47have the people around us to ask the questions and give a space and permission to say that yes. So what was a part of the58:53equation was oh, okay, our cycle is starting here. PMS is going to be the week leading up to it. What happens during PMS59:00typically, now can I be my highest self and you know, be meditating and transcendentalist and and all the things? Okay.59:07Yes. And in that state, we may be we may be good. We may be Gucci however, we may not be Yeah. So to plan for that. And59:15knowing Okay, well, this is going to be the week leading up to it. Let's do it the following week.59:20Because that week, I'm in bed watching TV, right? We own Netflix, Netflix, I love TV.59:28So I think also as entrepreneurs, as women, as men,59:34whoever, yeah. For us to realize, like the importance of having people in proximity who are actually checking on how are59:42you feeling? How does this make you feel, and being able to create situations for you to win? Yeah, without even needing59:48to ask. Yeah, that's right. And if you don't have that, already, to59:53ask for it, right. Like I remember a point with my team where I was like, I'm gonna be sort of so We're seeing a little1:00:00bit more intuitively. And I remember a point where like, they're like, why are we doing this? And I was like, it's I1:00:06didn't feel comfortable just saying like, it's gut. I felt like oh, that's like, pointed, oh, good, explain or justify.1:00:13And I had been leading that way, like a more massive way up to that point. So it was It felt different. And I had to get1:00:20comfortable just saying like it just like, that's what feels right. Because the thing is like, is when we have superpowers, right, that how it feels is a superpower. It's not1:00:29a distraction. It's not a like, inconvenience, it is a superpower. Because our feelings are the compass. It's like, no,1:00:36no, no, like, when you feel bad, it's because you are on the you're going the wrong way. It's the compass. So so that is a1:00:44superpower and checking in with yourself, like you're saying and having people around you like that's leaning into that1:00:50superpower that we have. Yes, I love that you called out. I'm hearing this distinction1:00:55between body and mind. And we went to a human design workshop, of course, we like nerding out on the human design. And so1:01:02there was one in Brooklyn a few days ago. And he made that distinction between the body and the mind, we are trained to1:01:10really uphold the mind as a superpower as Yeah, all logical, I figured it out.1:01:16And I thought about the way it was raised. And I was like, oh, yeah, I was raised, to be rational to explain, be able to1:01:22explain things. And what I'm learning is that statement of it1:01:28doesn't feel right is a complete sentence. Yes. And us owning and1:01:34embodying that is the first step of us saying no, this doesn't feel right is a complete sentence. And then helping1:01:43educate those around us why? Then going back to the explaining, we don't have to explain why. But, you know,1:01:49just just telling them that you're gonna be doing that, yes, that I'm going to be leaning into how I feel about it. And1:01:55you say that that's enough. We can also educate them on you know, the distinction between mind body but but, you know, once they know, it does keep1:02:05it. Yeah, that's right. That's right. I had hired a therapist, this is like a massive fail on my part, because I fired him.1:02:13But mainly because he was challenging me, it was a lot. But what I got, he was trying to help me. So mainly, I asked him1:02:23to help me be more in tune with how I feel about stuff. This was really in the height of me trying to step more into my1:02:29feminine. Because that distinction of like mind and body like are very much in my mind. And still am and a lot of1:02:37ways. And he gave me a new distinction. Two that like1:02:43feelings is actually a feeling in your body. Like you can say I feel sad, but you like a feeling actually feels away in your1:02:50body. So he was saying, I'm not going to ask you how you feel anymore. I'm gonna ask you where you feel. And that took me like1:02:58a couple of weeks to like, even understand what he was talking about. Like, what do you mean? I feel fine. I don't feel1:03:05anything. But like sort of unspoken? No, actually, I feel a little like tension here. Or like when I end. So it's really1:03:13like, where when you ask stuff, how you feel where the first thought goes and your body, right? That's where you're1:03:19feeling a thing, like wherever it goes instantly. And sometimes it's quiet your mind to get there. And so it took me a couple of weeks even like get to this. But that sort of is1:03:28talking about what you're talking about of like how you feel not just like, I feel happy, I feel sad, but you also like feel a thing in your body. And that's another level of like1:03:35really tuning into it. Absolutely. And I think it's when we say this doesn't feel1:03:44right. What I want to caveat that with is there's also the work that comes with that, to understanding the why. Because I1:03:54thought when I said that I was like oh, but that that's me having a scapegoat being like this is real, right? I'm not1:03:59gonna do it. Yeah, that's true. And we need to do the work of1:04:05understanding Oh, is this sixth grade Danny shown? So it's all yes. So just so that he doesn't feel right because there's1:04:11trauma and that we need to work through. But at least we know the distinction, mind body, all of1:04:17that. I love you. That's something you were the first person I think to say that to me as a friend that I return. I1:04:26love you. Oh, I do love you. Yeah, I didn't know that. Absolutely. I want to tap into what's true for you right now.1:04:38And I would love for you to share your truth. I'm a lot and that's beautiful.1:04:47Cheers to that. I love Yeah, this was your truth. This is my1:04:56show. I don't got to share you rubbish.1:05:04I am grateful. I'm so grateful for your friendship. And if1:05:10you're sharing yourself with me and your gift with me, and really, really grateful, you continue to teach me lessons,1:05:15even when you don't realize you're teaching me lessons, you respond to how I'm feeling what I'm thinking before I even say1:05:23it. Did Oh kiddo. I'm happy to be your friend.1:05:33Because we are on since 3000. We're going to do drunk in future. Ooh, you're going to hell, our futures. We're going1:05:41to intoxicate ourselves by our futures. Okay, I'm here for this.1:05:46Let's go. So feel free to talk about terror in the third person1:05:52in the future. What is Tara doing, where she at what she got going on in her life, what it looked like,1:05:59okay, so I immediately thought about, I was talking about how excited I am to be like, 60 my locks are getting kind of gray.1:06:06I feel like I'd be sexy with some gray. And I'm like, hitting1:06:11that point where like, I don't give a fuck, I don't care, you won't hit that yet. I think there's another level, there's1:06:19another level of like, I'm 60. And like, you can't tell me anything. And like, I'm confident regardless, right, so1:06:25like, maybe I can get it early and get it early. I host really great like events and parties with my friends and people I1:06:32love are still small groups because I don't be like in everybody. But I'm with people that I love and got lots of1:06:39freedom and understanding of each other. And I have sold a1:06:45couple companies by now and I get to like sit on board and advise cool things and cool projects and I get to like fund1:06:53my own creative things that I'm working on and like they just give me life and energy to be in my feminine and creating that1:07:02could be like software businesses could be like just performance art definitely performance art. And I'm doing1:07:11what I'm getting ready to do which is every quarter I get a house in a different part of the world and invite friends to come1:07:19hang flew switch it up. But I still have a home base probably in LA both of those things all the above because you know1:07:27abundance. Yes. And I have impacted and helped so many1:07:33people particularly inspire them to do their like introspective personal growth. And I've created abundance and freedom1:07:45for my family and future family I did this activity is like imagine you're 90 and you're sitting in a rocking chair. What1:07:50do you want friend and family to say about you? For me? It's really two things that I like created financial opportunities,1:07:57I change the trajectory, the socio economic trajectory of my family. And also that I I did my introspective personal work1:08:05people are like, no, no, Tara did her work, and that she shared that with the world. So I really am in the middle of doing1:08:14those two things. Thank you for sharing us your years are now because your show1:08:21I would love to share. Danielle is fully self Express. She's1:08:26definitely still expressing herself through her clothing, her fashions, dressing in themes, going to themed parties,1:08:34creating themed parties to where she can dress up. And others can1:08:39inspired by Shawn, inspired by her friend group already. Yeah.1:08:45Shawn is there Tara is there our friend group is there. And Danny has a book and has talked on a lot of stages. I actually want1:08:58to do that. Right. And I think a lot of collaboration just I have1:09:04done things like this, where I've let the world in on the intimate conversations where so much growth happens and impacted1:09:16the way so something I think a lot about is what are the things I wish I was taught when I was in school. And with the world1:09:23evolving so quickly. I'm like, what would it look like to bring all my friends and have them teach different things. So by1:09:30this time, I've had kids and they've been taught by my friends. Because my friends have done the work my friends are1:09:37self aware. And I brought them in to teach my kids I probably world schooled them. So we've lived in different places around1:09:44the world. And I've had my friends come in and teach them at those different parts community community and there's1:09:50no separation like they're 14 but they feel like they're your peer because we are talking to them because guess what? They1:09:58came here with the same amount of wisdom Knowing that we came here with, we just happen to be in these physical bodies longer1:10:03than them, but there's so much we can learn from them. So they're interacting well on TT as a peer and like, hey, on TT.1:10:10So can you tell me what you think this means? Is the sky really blue? Like what does that mean to you?1:10:16Sometimes it's green. Exactly. It depends on how you're looking at it, what time of day, what's your mood? Like? Because that's going to impact1:10:22how you see the world you're in. So I see all those conversations1:10:28happening. That's great. I've never heard you share that before. Thank you. That's wonderful.1:10:34Well, thank you so much for being here. This was amazing. Because we have conversations like this all the time. Yes, we1:10:39can really go deep. And go far. There's even more I wanted to talk to you about but I had to reel it in. And I'm just glad1:10:46that the world got to get a peer in on this conversation. But also in your evolution as an individual, there is so much1:10:53that you've already contributed to this world. And you're just getting started. And I love watching you blossom. And so for1:11:00everyone watching, they're going to want to know more about you and what you're doing. And where is the best place for them to1:11:07find you. Probably on Instagram. So at Tara Reid underscore r Ed. And1:11:13then I also run a company called apps without code which you can also find on social apps without code. Yes, thank you. Thank you1:11:21very much for coming. Fun. Yes. We did it. I love you. Since1:11:30since 3000. Yeah we did.1:11:45We were only three shore. Okay, that's not bad. Oh, wow.1:11:52Dallin. Do you remember when you came to LA and we were supposed to do how many 24 We were supposed to do a lot. I feel like more than this.1:12:00And he came and it was like two days blocked off. And on the first day we start filming and I get on to like the fourth video.1:12:07And these are like five to 10 minute videos. And I'm just in my head doubting myself. And I was like this delta do. You're1:12:13doing great. No, that was so awesome. Like what you did? And I was like, no, no, it's not right. And then I was like, I1:12:18need a break. I go upstairs, I cry my eyes out. And then my two team members consoled me. And then I was like, tell them to go1:12:25away. Oh1:12:35no, no, no, honestly, though, before you went upstairs, your body language changed. And I knew you needed space just to1:12:42take a break. Here with an EQ, right.1:12:49Oh my gosh. And then they're like, well, we'll just you know, see how you feel and play by ear and then we call the whole next1:12:55day off. So we got like four episodes on like 24 or something. But just to show the evolution I did II like you1:13:02know, the day before. I was like, you know, I was partying. So I was regulated on1:13:12the nervous system. I didn't know myself I didn't have the Self Mastery I have now that sounds1:13:21minor de tal is so nice and refreshing to see you be who you are. Like it is1:13:31just something to to create an opportunity for us to the rest1:13:38of us who are trying to walk the journey that you have already led yourself through. And even though you're still evolving,1:13:48you being vulnerable and sharing your story gives us an idea and a hope that thank you for doing1:14:00thank you so much. Well, friends like t have helped accelerate1:14:06this process. I was just thinking I'm really glad to have people around you who are like getting give you the long winded feedback,1:14:12because I'm like it was good. Day told me I text like a dude,1:14:19she's like she really does emojis. It's a long man. No punctuation. No exclamation points. No energy. You started1:14:27adding emojis though. You started because you told me my emoji game was slacking. I'm like I know her but I was like we were on a group text and1:14:34I was like, she's mad so I texted her. I was like, I was like t this person. I was like this person thinks you're an1:14:40asshole. Can you like add an emoji?1:14:50Y'all know what I mean. All right.1:14:58Oh, I love you. That's all One thing you were the first person, I think to say that to me as a friend, that I return I love1:15:07you. Oh, I do love you. Yeah, I didn't know that. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. Love you,1:15:15girl. Yeah, can not touchy factor thing we're not really but like, yeah,1:15:23love you know, love you long time. Listen, sometimes life be life in and we do not know what's coming down that road1:15:31next. Well that's what happened to me in 2016 when I was unexpectedly laid off from my job, and I was six figures in1:15:38student loan debt, I had no savings, and I didn't know what was going to happen next. Now luckily, I had this little voice1:15:46inside of me at that time that I couldn't ignore, and it was telling me to take the leap. It was saying, use this as your1:15:53opportunity to build your business. Use this as your opportunity to create your dream life. And so I believe that life1:16:01happens for us, not to us. And that nudge in my spirit, I should listen to it. Luckily, I did. Fast forward to today, I1:16:08have a business that's made over $20 million. And I've helped over 10,000 people create their online businesses and their1:16:16dream lives. So do you want to learn how to turn your story into an online product and launch in 30 days, head on over1:16:23to coursefromscratch.com/since3000. I want you to join us on this journey so you can listen to1:16:29that little voice inside of you too. So go now Do yourself a favor of coursefromscratch.com/since3000.EnglishAllFrom Danielle LeslieConversationRelatedListenableRecently uploaded
